Month: December 2018

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Fearless Living Friday- Merry Heart

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Fearless Living Friday- Merry Heart


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Fearless Living Merry Christmas Edition- Rejoice

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Fearless Living Friday- Merry Christmas Edition


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Meet Kim!

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                                                                                         Meet The Fearless 5 Leader

 

                                                                                                   Dr. Kim Costello

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Who is Kim in a nutshell?

I am a wife, a mother, a grandmother and a daughter. I love my family and it is my family that inspires me to be the best version of me. Although there are many words that can be used to describe me, the word that stands out the most is “peacemaker” and is perfectly aligned with my favorite bible verse, “blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called the children of God” (Mathew 5:9). In my profession, I help others navigate their adversarial circumstances so that they can find peace. In this, I have always viewed obstacles to not be true roadblocks but as challenges that can be worked through, circumstances and situations that can always be figured out by not going around them but by facing them head on. No matter how big the proverbial hill or mountain is, we continue to climb and overcome through building, creating, and implementing a path guided by God, truly embracing his beauty.

Where do you stand with Christ as of right now and where do you see your relationship with Him headed?

There are times that I know God is in front of me, guiding me. Other times, I know that God is beside me as a supporting lifelong friend. Then there are times that God is behind me, trusting that my faith in Him is strong enough to let me go forth on my own, yet keeping a watchful eye on me. In knowing this, I am building my trust bank daily, where I am letting control be something that I let go of.

I know that the struggle to trust God with life can be a big issue, as you’re finding out. But the thing to remember is that our God is a very big God and has all things under His control. That includes big things like the financial crisis and the little things like how we live our lives. You might have heard the phrase “let go and let God”. Some people think that this is the way we as Christians ought to understand the Christian life – we give up ourselves and let God control it all. However, this is very simplistic and problematic, to say the least.

Rom 12:1-2 is helpful at this point. True worship is to give up our lives for God, to live for Him alone. God calls us to lie in obedience to him. That does not involve relinquishing control, but rather letting God’s plans and purposes shape the things we do. Our minds are not switched off, but rather transformed and renewed by God, and so we become aware of the new way God wants us to live. This takes self control and action, two things that we all too often overlook the importance of.

Describe what makes you fearless?

For years, I would struggle with the “What if” Syndrome. “What if,” I send this letter and I have spelling errors? “What if,” I speak in public and forget what I am supposed to say? “What if,” the way I raised my children was not the right way? There were so many years that I was afraid of being judged or criticized, and the fear of the “What if’s” would get the best of me. I was so relieved that, in God’s eyes, performance does not matter. God just cares about the relationship we have with him. In 2nd Timothy 1:7 it says that God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power. God wants us to use our power. He wants us to come to him with our insecurities, our doubts and confusion. What makes me fearless is that I rely on God for my power. My strength comes from him and I trust in him to guide me in my life direction.


Where do you stand with Christ as of right now and where do you see your relationship with Him headed?

There are times that I know God is in front of me, guiding me. Other times, I know that God is beside me as a supporting lifelong friend. Then there are times that God is behind me, trusting that my faith in Him is strong enough to let me go forth on my own, yet keeping a watchful eye on me. In knowing this, I am building my trust bank daily, where I am letting control be something that I let go of.

I know that the struggle to trust God with life can be a big issue, as you’re finding out. But the thing to remember is that our God is a very big God and has all things under His control. That includes big things like the financial crisis and the little things like how we live our lives. You might have heard the phrase “let go and let God”. Some people think that this is the way we as Christians ought to understand the Christian life – we give up ourselves and let God control it all. However, this is very simplistic and problematic, to say the least.
Rom 12:1-2 is helpful at this point. True worship is to give up our lives for God, to live for Him alone. God calls us to lie in obedience to him. That does not involve relinquishing control, but rather letting God’s plans and purposes shape the things we do. Our minds are not switched off, but rather transformed and renewed by God, and so we become aware of the new way God wants us to live. This takes self-control and action, two things that we all too often overlook the importance of.

What is one of your favorite childhood memories?

While I have many fond memories of my childhood, the memories that stand out the most are those about the Christmas holiday. My love language is gift giving, so there is no surprise that Christmas is my favorite holiday. But my Christmas memories are not just about the presents, it is about a bigger and better gift: family. As family is so very important to me and what I hold closest to my heart, Christmas is the one time of the year that my entire family, from near and far, would get together to celebrate Christ’s birth and our deep love for one another. My paternal grandmother would spend the day cooking an amazing meal, and we sat together as a tightly bonded family, appreciating each other and all that we had. The sight and smell of the fresh snow outside, the scent of food permeating from the kitchen, and the tree that was so beautifully decorated as a family team effort are sights that remain vivid in my mind.

What makes your bond with your daughters unique?

My bond with my daughters in unique because in each daughter there is an attribute of strength in each of them that are literally my personal weakness so they each accent me in different ways. As a parent and business owner, I feel that my role is to be the serious one, one that makes sure that everyone is safe and taken care of, one that must wear many “hats” and does not know which direction to go, and one that sometimes has difficulty seeing the big picture because of being so focused on the small, immediate pictures. It is in this that my bonds with my daughters are what makes me whole. My youngest daughter, Allie, is my humorous, lighthearted child who can see the humor in any situation. She brings laughter and joy to everyone she is around. Allie brings this to our relationship, a bond built on laughter and happiness. My middle daughter, Autumn, is a truly gentle spirit, showing exceptional patience in times that are truly challenging and trying. She has a gift for taking the world in, taking the all of the information in front of her and figuring things out. Autumn shares the gift with me, and we share the bond of insight and wisdom. My eldest daughter, Ashlee, is the true definition of zealous. She has a deep love for every endeavor she takes on and moves forward in a logical and sequential manner. So often Ashlee is the “other side of my brain”, helping me see things through to completion when I have come to a halt, with a deep bond that is built on growth and accomplishment. Candice has a military background. She served in the Air-force and it was there where she found her innate ability to delegate. She is a force to reckon with when she has a task that needs to be mastered and she has a unique way of building rapport and trust while she guides fearlessly. I personally prefer not to delegate and am grateful that Candice fulfills this role as the taskmaster.

God has given each one of our daughters’ unique qualities that complement me. Their attributes combined with mine make us a compete Fearless 5 package.


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Fearless Living Friday- Hope

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Fearless Living Friday- Hope


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Meet Candice!

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                                                                                   Meet The Fearless 5 Task Master

                                                                                                  Candice Lindsey

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Who is Candice in a nutshell?

I am a wife, mother, and child of God who is outgoing, loud and spunky. I have a servant’s heart which is constantly guiding me to help others and a passion for crafts where I get to express my creativity. These attributes have been extremely useful to me over the years as a mother of two teenage children and a wife of over 20 years. 

Where do you stand with Christ as of right now and where do you see your relationship with Him headed?

As a child, I grew up in the church, but it was more religious in nature. It was my husband that was instrumental in helping me understand how to go from religion to a relationship with Christ. I have spent years developing that bond and will continue to do so for the rest of my life. Now that I am strong in my faith and have a clear understanding of what Gods love is like, I have started to shift my focus on being an example for my children. I want my children to be strong and confident in their relationship with Christ and be fearless as well. 

Describe what makes you fearless?

I am fearless because of my faith. God desires a relationship with his children and relationships are not one sided. A relationship is defined as a state of being connected and requires give and take. It took me a while to grasp this concept and come to the realization that I needed him always. I had to learn to listen and trust that no matter what I am up against, or situation I am in, I will be okay, because I am a child of God.  As I have grown deeper in my faith, I have obtained a better understand that God has met or will meet all my needs.  God’s plan is greater than anything that I ever imagined for my life, so I have learned to pray for his guidance and trust his path for me.

What is one of your favorite childhood memories?

It is hard to pinpoint just one but, I would have to say Christmas time holds a lot of fond memories for me from my childhood. As a child it was a magical time of year, we got a break from school, our parents were off from work too, and we received presents! One thing my family did every year was drive around looking at Christmas lights. We would judge them off how loud we “ooh and ahhh”. I may not remember where we went to see the lights or even what they looked like, but I do remember my parents taking the time to load us all in the car and create fun quality time to share.  

What makes your bond with your sisters and mom unique?

The thing that makes my bond with my sisters unique is that not all of my sisters where due to biologics. Blended families can be hard because it is up to each individual to choose their level of commitment. It was and is different for me and my sisters because we may not have been born into the same family, but we all chose to be connected and committed to staying close even over the years. As the oldest sister I tried to spend individual time with each of my sisters in order to build a unique and special bond with each of them. We all shared similar past hurts from our individual broken homes but as the oldest I felt it was my job to show them unconditional love and all of our job to rally into a new whole family. Now that we are all older and have different careers, family lifestyles, and adventures, we all still rally together and not only love each but celebrate our differences.